🗣️ Finding the Sweet Spot

 NEWS YOU CAN USE

🛌 The Science of Satisfaction

I once saw a documentary about an African chief with eleven wives.

Eleven.

He looked like a broken man…drained.
Like a squeezed-out teabag left out in the sun.

Not from the wives — no! (Let’s be clear: my own wife, who will definitely read this, is wonderful. An angel sent from heaven 😅)

No, the poor guy looked half-dead from the sex.

And it turns out, science agrees with him.

Researchers reviewed 279 studies and found the sweet spot for happiness is — brace yourself — once a week.
(And yes, you still have to find the sweet spot.)

That’s enough to feel connected. Not enough to need a defibrillator.
Any more than that, and satisfaction actually drops (or is that spelled droops? 😉)
Apparently, passion becomes routine, and routine becomes… a chore, with sweat.

But here’s the real insight:

This isn’t really about sex.
It’s about how terrible we are at predicting what makes us happy.
We assume more = better.

And science keeps proving us wrong.

So much for “the more, the merrier.”
(Although tell that to the ancient Romans… or suburban couples in the ’70s.)

💡 PRO TIP: When a topic feels too taboo to touch, zoom out to the principle. This study may not be dinner-table material, but “the sweet-spot idea” works anywhere, from work to workouts.

💬 FOLLOW-UP: “I read this study showing that more isn’t always better when it comes to happiness. It made me rethink [work / exercise]. Where do you think we overdo it?”

⛔ DON’T SAY: “So… how often are you doing it?” (You will get uninvited. From everything. Forever.)

FAMOUS WORDS

“Sex is emotion in motion.”
(Mae West, American actress and professional troublemaker, 1893–1980)

🎬 Can you name the film?

🏙️ A deli. A sandwich. A performance.

Answer at the end 👇

WORD WISE

😏 Wordplay (Not Foreplay)

The full sex spectrum — here’s how humans talk about doing it:

🙏 For priests, academics, and doctors:

fornicate • copulate • coitus • intercourse
(When you need maximum clinical distance from what’s actually happening.)

🇺🇸 Standard slang:

bang • bone • nail • screw • smash • hook up
(American directness at its finest.)

🇬🇧 Very British:

shag • hanky-panky • rumpy-pumpy • a bit of slap and tickle
(The Brits really said, “Let’s make it sound like a children’s game.”)

💡 PRO TIP: Match your language to your audience.

“Intercourse” at brunch = serial-killer vibes.
“Rumpy-pumpy” in a work email = next stop, Job Centre.

TALK TOOLBOX

🛟 The TMI Survival Guide

We’ve all been trapped by someone with no filter—sharing details that should’ve stayed in their therapy session, diary… or grave.
This will help. Know when to talk and when to walk.

When you’re stuck (coworker, family, no escape…):

• 👉 Set a boundary: “Whoa, that’s pretty personal — not sure I’m the right audience for that.”

• 👉 Or pivot: “That’s a bit intense. Let’s change the topic…” Most oversharers don’t realise they’re doing it.

If they keep going:

• 👉 “I’m not comfortable talking about that.” Full stop. No “sorry” needed.

When you can escape: “I need to grab another drink/check my phone/find the bathroom.” Then don’t come back.

💡 PRO TIP: Chronic oversharing isn’t cluelessness—it’s a choice. Protect your peace. Awkward beats traumatized.

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BECAUSE THE ROBOTS ARE COMING

Last issue, we met the AI actress giving Hollywood heartburn.

Now, multiply that by ten — and say hello to Sam Altman’s latest “gift” to humanity: Sora 2.

Think TikTok on AI steroids.
An AI video generator that turns simple text into full-blown cinema. It shot straight to the top of the U.S. App Store after launch (because we just can't resist our hi-def replacements.)

But while Germany’s running 20-hr robot shifts in BMW factories, and China’s boasting a 300,000-strong robot workforce, the US gives us this deranged madness👇

The awful irony here? Stephen Hawking warned AI could end humanity.
Now it’s reanimated him for likes.

@ai.magico

Ranking The Best Stephen Hawking Sora Edits #ai #sora #sora2 #chatgpt #olympics #stephenhawking #ufc #race #battlebots #football #fyp

ICONIC

🎸 John Lennon

John Lennon would've turned 85 this week (October 9th) — but he’s frozen at 40, shot outside his New York apartment in 1980.

His influence? Incalculable. The Beatles rewired music. His solo work gave us Imagine — one of the most covered songs in history (not even ruined by Gal Gadot). He made activism into art and proved pop stars could think as well as sing.

Weird facts:

• The FBI spied on him for years — Nixon saw him as a re-election threat.

• His “Bed-In for Peace” with Yoko: literally a week in bed with the press invited.

• He was declared legally blind in 1970.

• Yoko Ono kept his bloodstained glasses — still on display.

The legacy: peace signs, round specs, and the belief that "All you need is love."

💬 YOUR TURN: Lennon or McCartney — who’s the real genius? (WARNING: This question has ended friendships.)

ANSWER

🎬 ANSWER: When Harry Met Sally (1989)

Rob Reiner’s rom-com masterpiece asks if men and women can ever just be friends.

🌎 Cultural Impact: The famous fake orgasm scene in the diner and “I’ll have what she’s having” (the actor — the director’s mum.)

🧠 Deep Dive: The quote is frequently ranked among the best in movie history and landed at #33 on the American Film Institute's 100 Greatest Movie Quotes.

💬 YOUR TURN: What’s your favourite rom-com?

LAST WEEK

🗳️ Would you scan your eye to prove you’re human?

(And get some $$$.)

A) 👁️ Yes — safer logins and some crypto? Why not! — 12%
B) 😬 Maybe — ask me again when everyone else is doing it — 38%
C) 🚫 No way — my eyeballs aren’t for sale — 50%

💬 Your Two Cents

M.M: “Do not trust these people”

S.H: “Fingerprints, facial recognition, ear shape, and now they want our eyeballs, DNA will be next on their wish-list. I just wish they'd think of more imaginative Turing Tests as whatever biometric they take it can always be copied or hacked in someway”

S.Y: “In fairness our phones have been doing it for years"

🤣

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