🗣️🌎 Love Hurts

🌎 THE CULTURE CODE 🕵🏻‍♂️

Ah, February 14th - when half the world panic-buys roses. But before it became a $24 billion exercise in disappointed wives, Valentine's Day had some seriously weird origins.
Want the lowdown on one of the biggest cultural events of the year?
Here's your cheat sheet for Valentine’s facts, with no sugar-coating.

📅 When did all this start?

• 🇮🇹 1500 years ago in ancient Rome - they celebrated 'Lupercalia' with wine, nudity, and whipping people with fresh goat hides for fertility.
  And you thought your ex was intense.

🤔 Wait, so who was Valentine?
The awkward truth? No one really knows. Here's what we think we know:

• He was a Roman priest who either:

  • Cured his jailer's daughter's blindness and fell in love with her (and then got executed)

  • OR helped soldiers get married in secret (the Roman army had a strict "no marriage" policy... and then got executed)

  • So, execution seems to be the theme 💀

🧐 Fun fact: He's also the patron saint of beekeepers and epilepsy. But his origins are so murky that the Catholic church took him off their calendar in 1969…🤨

😬 So, how did we get from dead goats to chocolates?

• 14th-century poetry! First, Chaucer linked Valentine's Day with love birds (young couples are still called “lovebirds” today)

• The Victorians then mass-produced Valentine’s cards (capitalism + romance = love messages written by someone else)

• Then, in 1868, Cadbury's created the heart-shaped chocolate box (genius marketing move)

• Now panicked men buy them by the millions on Feb 13th. Average spend - $190! (I told you, love hurts)

🗣️ Now you know the facts - turn them into conversations

Skip the usual "Got any plans for Valentine's?" and try these instead:

• "Did you know Valentine's Day is banned in some places?" (Looking at you, Iran, Malaysia, Saudi Arabia and high schools in Florida.)

• “What's the worst Valentine's gift you've ever received?" (Everyone has a story, trust me, ask my wife…😬)

• “Have you ever bought a Valentine’s gift for a pet?" (Americans spend $2 billion a year on their furry friends 🐶)

💡 PRO TIP: The dark history behind that box of chocs makes for an interesting chat. Just don’t ask how much they cost.

💬 FAMOUS WORDS 🧐

“Keep your eyes wide open before marriage and half shut afterwards.”
(Benjamin Franklin, American Founding Father, 1706-1790) 🇺🇸

Can you name the film? 😉 
💖🇺🇸 An American romantic classic and one of the most famous films ever - too easy?
Answer at the end of this issue ⬇️

🗞️ NEWS YOU CAN USE 🗝️

👨‍❤️‍👨 Diplomatic Slow Dance

Trump continues to point his tariff Tommy gun at any country he sees - but not Japan. 🇯🇵
The country that originally sparked Trump's "America First" tariff-attack mentality back in the 1980s is now somehow avoiding them.

🤔 So, what’s their secret sauce?
Japan came bearing gifts (and we're not talking about those weird Kit-Kats), including:

• A cool $1 trillion investment promise for the US

• Team-ups on AI, semiconductors, and defence (basically a tech friend with benefits)

But here's the clever part…while other leaders have been playing hardball, Japan's PM mastered the art of the ego stroke, stating about Trump:

• “I was so excited to see such a celebrity on television”

• “He was very powerful and strong-willed” (Smooth operator…)

He then insisted he wasn’t “sucking up” (…mmm, 😒)

💡PRO TIP: Japan's approach was basically a masterclass in handling difficult people. Next time you're dealing with a difficult client/boss/relative:

• Lead with what they love (usually themselves)

• Keep your eye rolls internal (Japan's poker face game is strong)

• Remember: Sometimes managing a scary personality is about managing their ego first and business second.

  (Results may vary. $1 trillion bribes not included.)

🗣️ CONVERSATION STARTER: "Isn't it wild how Japan went from being America's biggest economic rival to diplomatic bestie?

📚 WORD WISE 🧠

🍯 The Art of Flattery

Want to master the language of diplomatic dealings?
Here's your verbal toolkit for handling tricky personalities:

👀 Recognize it

• To butter someone up - Lots of flattery before asking for something.
  "Sarah totally buttered up the manager before asking about the promotion" (Classic Sarah)

• To suck up to - More obvious (and desperate) flattery
  "Tina’s always sucking up to the new boss - he even laughs at the golf jokes” (We all know a Tina…)

• To kiss arse 🇬🇧/ass 🇺🇸 - The blunter, more cynical cousin of "sucking up" (when you're tired of pretending it's diplomacy)
  "The new intern is kissing arse so hard he should be wearing lip balm"

✨ Diplomatic Phrases That Work Magic

• I value your experience with..." (Instead of "I need...")
  "I really value your experience with difficult clients" (Translation: Help!)

• You might be right about... (Instead of "But...")
  "You might be right about that approach. Have you also considered..."

• I'd love your thoughts on... (Instead of direct criticism)
  "I'd love your thoughts on how we could make this deadline work" (Rather than "This deadline is insane!")

💡 PRO TIP: The secret here? Sound sincere.
Even difficult people can smell fake flattery from a mile away (and unlike Trump, they might not appreciate it).

🗣️ CONVERSATION STARTER: "What's the most obvious case of sucking up you've ever seen?" (We all have that one coworker story... 👀)

🤖 BECAUSE THE ROBOTS ARE COMING 🌎

💸 Big game, Bigger Budgets

The Super Bowl happened on Monday, where 123 million Americans watched some guys throw a ball around between Taylor Swift reaction shots.
But let's talk about the real game: those halftime ads.

How much for 30 seconds of fame? $8 million.
(Yes, you read that right. That's $266,666 per second...) These ads aren’t about selling, they are about showing people you are a big deal.

This year's hot topic? AI.
Nothing says "we're a big deal," like burning millions to tell people you're changing the world (and probably taking their jobs.)

The Winner?

You can check them out here.
But the biggest impact? OpenAI, the makers of ChatGPT.
Sixty seconds, $16 million, and we get…pixels. 😕

💬 YOUR TURN: What do you think?👇

💬 TALKING POINT 🤔

⚖️ Balance or Bank?

While we still have jobs, what motivates you to drag yourself out of bed in the morning, squeeze onto a packed train and go to work? (Hello, Tokyo!)

After 22 years of asking, "Why do you work?" Randstad's global survey Workmonitor just dropped a bombshell - money finally lost its crown.

The new king? Work-life balance.

How about you?

💬 YOUR TURN: Something else driving you? Hit ‘reply’ and let me know.

📊 LAST WEEK’S WINNER - AI joining the military and Climate change were joint winners for what worries you most about the future. Thanks for voting!

🗣️ DID YOU SEE…? 👀

Lunch break or Happy Hour - Stories that stick.

• 🇰🇷 Divorce Therapy: South Korea's secret to long marriages? TV shows about divorce.

• 😳 Pleasure Policy: This CEO gives 30-minute ‘self-pleasure’ breaks…(sorry, no word on if they are hiring.)

• 🕷️ Nightmare Fuel: Zombie cave spiders are a real thing…now try sleeping tonight 😱

💡 PRO TIP: Chatting with colleagues? Save the "self-pleasure breaks" talk for after-work drinks. Trust me on this one.

🤔 ANSWER 🧩

🎬 Here’s Looking at You
The movie title: Casablanca (1942).
The American Film Institute (AFI) ranks this romance-thriller-propaganda masterpiece as the #3 Greatest American Film Ever.

🍿 Cultural Impact
It gives us more quotable lines than Shakespeare:

• “Play it again, Sam” (although never actually said in the film)

• “This is the beginning of a beautiful friendship.”

• “We’ll always have Paris.”

• “Here’s looking at you, kid.”

• and more…

🧠 Deep Dive: Want to know more and have 7 min to spare?
Check this out on YouTube.

💬 YOUR TURN: What's your favourite romance movie? 💖
Hit 'reply' and let me know.

👋🏻 THIS IS THE END✌🏼

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